So, Let's be honest here! As women, living in America, in a time such as this, with the influence of social media being as heavy as it is, we have so much to obsess over. We worry about if we're pretty enough, if we're the "right size" or not, if our stomachs are flat enough, if our hips are wide enough, if our butts are big enough, if our waists are small enough, if our skin is perfect enough, if our hair is long enough, etc., etc., etc.! I mean, seriously, the list is never ending!
What I have realized, however, is that we don't worry about any of these things because we truly care that much about every single detail of our outer appearance, but we do however obsess over all of these things because we want to be seen as perfect to other people (men, and women)! We want other women to "hate on us", or even feel insecure about themselves because of our "perfect looks". We want them to know that we could "take their man" if we wanted to because we're just "oh-so'fine"! Secondly, we want men who have no standards, bad intentions, and no relationship with God to worship us because of the way we look. We want them to stare at our bodies as we walk by, because it makes us "feel better" about ourselves, right? So we buy our clothes in the smallest size that we can possibly squeeze into without passing out from holding our breath too long, just to get the attention of some man who truly wants nothing from you other than what you're advertising as "for sale". You're insecure, Sis. You're empty on the inside, and you think that man who's lusting after you is going to make you feel better about yourself, but he won't babygirl. That's what it all truly boils down to-WE are insecure. So, instead of giving our issues to God (who is the only person who can fix them anyway, we seek after attention to try to fill them ourselves. Instead of admitting what's true: we don't like what we see in the mirror, we get undressed and take pictures for INSTAGRAM as if that'll make us more appealing. THEN, we have the audacity to say we feel beautiful because some RANDOM [as Heather Lindsey would say] with no standards, and no respect for himself, you, or God, is "interested in you". Girl please! You know better. That man is going to ruin you, Sis! He doesn't love you- He loves what you GIVE to him, freely at that! You have a sign on your chest that says "I AM INSECURE AND BROKEN", and you can't even see it because you're too busy thinking about when is the best time to post your next naked picture, or when you should text than man that God has told you to stay away from! You're empty, Sis, and until you give God your heart, you're only going to make matters worst. So at this point, you're naked on the outside, and growing more and more empty on the inside, but you don't care because you finally found a way to "fill" the huge void in your heart, right? Guys are finally finding you attractive so you must be doing something right!? You've gained so many more Instagram followers because guys (and girls, for some of you), find you attractive now because your nudes are just so bomb! When you started, you had 400 followers, but now you've reached 4,000 followers, and you're feeling more beautiful than ever. Now,instead of just wearing your basic bras and panties, you go buy sexy lingerie from V.S. just to show it off to all your followers. It's heartbreaking and disgusting to see how low our self-esteem can become. Sis, God didn't give you that body so you could show it off to the world, or so it could be sold to the highest bidder; he gave it to you for only your husband to see and admire. God knows you're beautiful, babygirl-He created you that way. Awhile ago, My mom said something that truly stuck with me: She said, "Everybody is "beautiful" when the lights are off and their legs are in the air"! It's so cut-throat, but so so true. I don't care how unattractive you may be to a man with your clothes on, When you take them off, you look completely different. Babygirl, trust me when I say that it's not you he thinks is beautiful, but it's what's between your legs! It's what you're willing to give to him for absolutely free. He sees that you have no standards, and no respect for yourself, so he also knows that you won't require him to have any either! Any ungodly man will lust after you! He has no standards, and no intentions of doing anything with you other than using you for what he thinks you're good for! But Sis, I know you're worth so much more. Don't give yourself to that man! He doesn't love you. He's going to hurt you! You won't feel better about yourself-You'll only feel worst. You are a queen created by the ONE and ONLY, MOST HIGH GOD. You are his bride-He loves you. He created you exactly the way you were meant to be. He never makes a mistake! Get up sis, Put your clothes back on. I know you feel insecure, I do too. I know you wish God would have shaped and molded you a little differently, sis, but he made you exactly how he wanted you to be! You are fearfully and wonderfully made, Sis! (Psalm 139:14) How dare us question our creator when we know that he is absolutely perfect in every way? I know this post may have seemed harsh, but believe me, I wrote it all out of love! You deserve better, baby. You are my sister. I can't see that you're broken and not help you. God has created you for so much more than you could ever imagine. He adores you! You are his beloved, his daughter, his bride. You are a representation of Christ! You have been made new, Sis! Jesus washed us with his precious blood. 17 Therefore if any man be in Christ, he is a new creature: old things are passed away; behold, all things are become new. (2 Corinthians 5:17) KJV I encourage you all to re-evaluate your lives. Ask yourself: Am I using my body to gain attention from others, or am I living a holy life, one that pleases God in the way that I present myself? Please do not be discouraged. Insecurity is something we all, as women, struggle with. Maybe not always publicly, but privately. I love you all so much & I'm praying for you. Stay strong! God loves you like crazy! -Aaliyah
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Goodmorning Ladies. I hope all of you are doing amazing today. I've decided to talk about something a little bit different today, so just stick with me. haha.
I'm sure we've all been in relationships where the girl/guy just seems so perfect at the time, and we think they were made just for us. Just me? Okay then. Lol. Or is it that we KNOW someone isn't right for us, yet we hold on to it anyways, for whatever reason. Well, personally I've done both. But what happens when we get into relationships as broken people and we THINK that other person "Completes" us? I know I've made this mistake without even knowing it. So let me just tell y'all a little story. So, I'm dating this Guy and he has all these issues. I mean this dude had more issues than Vogue, #Nawfr. But you know me, I'm like "baby, I'm here for you", "I'm going to help you through this", etc. You know, tryna be Mrs.SuperSaver. So, I'm so wrapped up in his problems, and his issues, and trying to fix everything that was broken about him that I ended up injuring myself in the process. So, now I'm jacked up, and he's still jacked up, so now we're both just toxic. So, time goes on and I'm still loving him past all his issues thinking that my love would heal him, and in some ways heal me too. But see, what I failed to realize was, you attract exactly what you are. I was broken in so many ways, and he was broken in even more ways, so instead of acknowledging that we needed help, we decided to "fall in love". Or so I thought? It wasn't until God rescued me from that relationship that I realized that two broken, incomplete people DO NOT create love. They do not complete one another. They create dependency. There is no one in this world who can complete you. God is the only person who has the power to fill all of those voids. It wasn't until I realized how broken I was from all the things I'd been through in my life that I realized how dependent I was on my "then-boyfriend" to somehow heal me from my past, but he couldn't. He was just as broken as I was. So, I say all of that to say this: Every single one of us has been injured in some way. Maybe by a parent? A sibling? An ex? A friend? Etc. We're all a little broken, and it takes God to heal those wounds. You don't need a person to complete you. Spouses are supposed to COMPLIMENT you, the whole you that God created you to be. Give your broken pieces to him and allow him to repair your heart! Remember, you attract what you are. Broken people attract broken people. Trust me, I've been there. I used to wonder why every Guy I dated seemed to be just filled with problems, it was because I was full of problems and brokenness. Don't be afraid to be honest with yourself about your weaknesses- that it what makes you strong! - God bless you all, Stay beautiful�� Aaliyah Hello everyone!! I'm finally back. Okay, okay. I know y'all are thinking "Girllll, where have you been?". I promise to tell you all about it, but first and foremost, happy happy new year to you all. I believe that 2015 is OUR year. If your 2014 was anything like mine, then I know you're looking for God to go above and beyond for you this year, and I believe with everything inside of me that God has great things planned for each and every one of us.
Okay! Now let's get down to it. So, I was blogging like crazy over the summer. I had just recently gotten out of a relationship with a Guy at that time, who I thought would someday be my husband, but let's just say God had a different plan! Haha. So, yes, I started blogging and then school started and honey, I just got so bogged down that I barely had time to sleep. Well, as the semester went on, I started getting so overwhelmed that I somewhat abandoned my walk with Christ. It wasn't that I didn't want to still live for God, because I did, but I didn't feel close to him anymore. I was back to feeling spiritually empty and malnourished. So, a couple months go by and I'm existing but not really living. I was very down and depressed when I wasn't around people. I cried almost everyday, and honey, homegirl right here does not do tears! So in November, I made a "bad decision" that I will go into detail about in a post that I'm going to do later & I literally hit rock bottom. I felt like I would never recover from it. I felt like . . . God didn't love me anymore. I felt alone. I felt like I wasn't worthy of being loved, so I become even more depressed. So, here I am. Depressed as heck. I'm hating myself. I'm hating everyone around me. I'm questioning whether or not God has a plan for my life. I'm questioning whether I should live or not, the whole nine yards. See, the problem was I didn't think God could use me because I made a bad choice. I didn't think God planned great lives for people like me, people who stumble. So one day, I'm watching Sarah Jakes, if you haven't heard her testimony, you need to get your butt on YouTube right now! So, anyways, I'm on YouTube and I'm listening to her minister and testify about her own life and her own struggles and I realized that even though I've made some bad choices, and fallen short, God's grace is still on my life. For any of you who think that because you did this, or because you did that, that God doesn't love you, or that he doesn't have a plan for your life, THAT IS A LIE. God loves us no matter what we do. He doesn't expect us to be perfect. In fact, he knows exactly when we're going to mess up. God uses the broken parts of us to create beauty and strength. Ladies, please do not fool yourselves into believing that you are not worthy of God's best because you are! We all are. It wasn't until I was at my lowest that I realized just how great his mercy was. I am at the best place I've ever been in my walk with Christ and I'm so thankful that I didn't give up, but more importantly that I serve a God who never gives up on us! I am here for you, ladies. If you need anything, anything at all, I'm here. I created this blog for us. Not for me. Not so I can be famous, or any of that crap, but so I can testify about what God has done for me! And hopefully, in return, help all of you. Thank you for taking time to read my blog. I love you & JESUS loves you like crazy! #NeverGiveUp We have all gone through something at one time or another that seemed to have no solution. Our backs were against the wall and we were completely lost. I am currently in the midst of one of those situations myself.
What I've learned about God is that he loves us more than anything. He hates to see us struggle and cry and be upset. That is not his will for our lives. He wants us to live a life filled with peace and prosperity. Sometimes, God allows us to go through situations that seem impossible to overcome in order to show us that ONLY through him are ALL THINGS POSSIBLE. God knows that we can't fix all of our problems. If we could, there would be no need for salvation. So, I encourage you all to take your worries to God. He has all the power. He wants to help us but sometimes we get too caught up in thinking we can handle everything. No no. God is the way and in all things we should acknowledge him. Don't be afraid to give God your problems. Don't be afraid to put it all on the altar. God bless you! -Xoxo, Aaliyah Let me first say that I am human. I am far from perfect, and my past is ugly, however, God has brought me out of those situations that were once my personal strongholds so I am not embarrassed by who I used to be; I am thankful that while I was yet a sinner, Christ died for me.
When I first got saved, I wanted it to be a secret. I wasn't ashamed of it, but I wasn't secure in it either. I've grown up in a very religious family due to the fact that my uncle is indeed a pastor so church has never been foreign to me. After I began to grow more & more in Christ (and please don't be fooled, I am STILL growing) I got more comfortable with talking to others about him. In doing so, I realized that a lot of young people, like myself, have a passion of hunger for God's love but are too afraid to talk about him because of what others will think of them. Jesus said in Mathew 10:33 "If you deny me in front of your friends, I will deny you in front of my father". Imagine living a secret life of loving Jesus, but denying him to the rest of the world ..... what's going to happen when your flesh dies and your souls goes to meet the father himself? Will you too be denied by Jesus the way Jesus has been denied by you? Jesus is worth telling the world about and there should be NO shame in it. I know how hard it can be, but in all honestly, the people around you will take heed to your leadership if they are meant to be around you & if not, GOD will place the right people in your path! Don't deny God for the approval of those around you because they did not pay the price for your salvation. If anyone needs someone to talk to about this, please please feel free to go to my contact page and leave your email or your kik. I do my best to respond to everyone! Much love, Aaliyah ♡ [P.S. - Go to my HOME Page and complete the 3 question survey. It is COMPLETELY anonymous. Thanks!] We are taught from a very young age to say our prayers at night before we go to sleep, so why is it that as we grow older, we tend to forget this step in our lives? Instead of relying on God to fix our problems, we try to fix them ourselves. If we would just learn to trust his plan for our lives instead of questioning the when, why, how, when, and where, we would be so much better off and life would be much more stress free. But let's face it, It's not as easy as it seems to just hand over control of your life, but it's necessary!! God won't steal control of your life nor will he manipulate you into giving it to him; you have to make a decision to give him your life free willingly!
If we can put our trust into things that are temporary and destined to fail, why is it so difficult to put our trust into someone who loves us more than anything and only wants to give us the best? We as women tend to all search for one thing that is alike: A GOOD GUY. We don't want an okay guy, we want an amazing guy and an amazing wedding and an amazing family. Yet, we date guys that are no where near amazing. Some of us, as women, have sex with guys that we wouldn't dare let our parents even see us with instead of giving a nice guy the time of day. Why are women so complicated? Let go ladies!! Let go and let God take control of your life. He will bless you with a life far beyond your expectations, but you have to allow him to bless you by first allowing him to take control. Trust GOD's plan and not your own. -Xoxo, Aaliyah |